Welcome, dear readers! In this blog, we’ll explore the transformative journey to becoming the best version of yourself, especially when you want revenge on your ex.
Many years have passed since we’ve been striving to move on from that hard breakup, trying to transform ourselves to get our ex's attention back. We hit the gym, follow diets, hire personal trainers, and even consider drastic measures like plastic surgery. On another hand, we often try to “adapt” ourselves to potential partners, sacrificing our values and boundaries just to avoid being alone. These repetitive patterns often include compromising with family members and friends. Yet, despite all our efforts, we often find ourselves back at square one. Where do we truly begin this transformation? How can we create a new version of ourselves from a place where we feel stuck, leading us to a state of freedom and fulfillment? And finally, get the attention from that person once and for all.
Internal vs. External Transformation
When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
The external projection often masks the real work that needs to happen internally. How do we address internal struggles, like being stuck in toxic relationships or repeating negative patterns? The answer lies in transforming from the inside out.
Breaking Free from Negative Patterns
One of the biggest challenges we face is repeatedly attracting partners with the same toxic behaviors, maintaining bad friendships, and working in negative environments. These patterns often stem from unresolved internal issues. You might find yourself thinking, "Why do I keep ending up with the same kind of people?" or "Why do I stay in friendships that drain me?" The key to breaking free from these cycles is to start with yourself.
We often repeat the same mistakes over and over again because we use the same solutions. The best thing to do is to take responsibility and embrace changing yourself. Let your old self die and embrace a new you with different hopes, personality, habits, behaviors, and ways of thinking.
First, we must change our inner selves to create a new personality. This involves surrounding ourselves with a new environment, new people, and most importantly, new thoughts. Yes, new thoughts!
Envision the person you want to be—someone healthy, free from harmful love, material, food, and emotional addictions. This transformation starts within you.
The Power of Self-Reflection
Everyone knows what they need to do to change. Do you want to stop drinking? You know what to do. Do you want to quit smoking? You know what to do. Do you want to attract the love of your life? You know what to do. Do you want to start that new career or business? You know what to do. The answers are within you. The challenge is changing yourself internally to project a new reality externally. This means spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically aligning your desires with your actions. And not minding what other people think about you.
What do you really want to do with your life? What do you need to change to become the person you aspire to be?
Often, the solution is staring back at you in the mirror. When you look into your own eyes, remember that they are the windows of your soul. An important fact is that we keep attracting the same kind of person into our lives because we mirror what we need to work on inside ourselves. You might ask yourself: "But I am a good person, why do I keep attracting the same kind of harmful relationships?" Well, my darling, if that person is treating you badly and not giving you the value you deserve, why do you keep staying there? What standards are you showing them? What limits are you not respecting in yourself? Listen, people treat you the way you let them treat you, period.
Embrace Positive Change
Have you tried therapy, changing partners, or chasing external success without finding true happiness and feeling like a failure? This is because you are focusing on external projections.
True healing begins within. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, if you wake up thinking, "Another day, I don’t feel enough," change that to, "Today, I will be kind to myself, healthy, and replace negative thoughts with positive ones."
In this life, we are superheroes capable of saving ourselves from our internal enemies—those negative thoughts and traumas from the past. By embracing a new pattern of positive thinking, we can transform our lives.
Whatever happened in your past stays there, and whatever you are worried about in the future, well, stays there too. Therefore, start with one of the many steps from my programs: be present today, block and go silent from that harmful person: You. Your own thoughts are the harmfulness, stop, block and go silence. Next, start your inner transformation by feeling and visualizing the person you want to be. As soon as you wake up, start this exercise, and do the same with your last thoughts before you fall asleep. Dedicate 5 minutes three times a day to imagine, visualize, and feel the emotions of the person you want to be. (The ex is out of this picture, it's just you.) The next thing will be to take the first steps of action to become that person you want to be.
Be the Leader of Your Own Life
Embrace the journey of self-transformation and start creating the new you today. After a while, when the new you emerge from the ashes, I guarantee you won't want to be with that person or situation anymore. You will have evolved, and there won't be the need for a "caveman" or a "gold-digger" around, even if they beg you to come back. And that's the best revenge—you don't need them anymore because you are the best version possible of yourself, resulting in not wanting to be with them anymore.
This process of transformation is evolution in your soul, body, behavior, habits, and the environment around you. It’s going to feel uncomfortable as you step out of your comfort zone and become the person you always desired to be. And I am here to guide you. There are many more steps that need guidance and commitment. Are you ready to become the new you?
I have a question for you: Do you still want revenge or to attract your ex back?
Comment below on how you plan to begin this journey. Together, let’s create a community of new human beings on this beautiful planet.
By embracing these strategies and committing to internal transformation, you can unlock your full potential and live a fulfilling, balanced life. Let’s embark on this journey together!
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